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Transgender teen settles landmark health case

By Katie Kerwin McCrimmon 17 July 2013 (There is another version at: My Canadian Pharmacy)

FORT COLLINS — An 18-year-old college student who grew up as a girl and now identifies as a young man has settled a landmark civil rights case against Kaiser Permanente of Colorado.

In the rare case, the Colorado Civil Rights Commission found in March that there was probable cause that Miki Alexander Manigault suffered discrimination and unequal access to health care specifically because he is transgender. (Click here to read the determination of probable cause. ← ..: webmaster note: The link there was missing from the archived article & I'll try to find out if it was specific to Miki's case. :..)

On the same day, after pressure from advocates at One Colorado, Colorado’s Division of Insurance issued a bulletin and became the third state in the country to specifically bar health insurance companies from discriminating against people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. (California and Oregon preceded Colorado. The District of Columbia also bans discrimination against LGBT patients and Vermont has since followed suit.)

Faced with charges of unequal treatment, Kaiser Permanente quietly settled Manigault’s case before it was slated to go to a hearing in June. Amy Whited, a spokeswoman for Kaiser Permanente, declined to discuss Manigault’s case. As a result of a settlement with the Civil Rights Commission, however, Kaiser, one of Colorado’s largest health insurance companies, has agreed to work with the commission to convene discussions among insurers regarding health care for transgender people.

Manigault’s case has already prompted at least one other complaint to the Civil Rights Commission and may open the doors for equal health care for LGBT patients in Colorado and elsewhere in the U.S. (Coming next week: read about Kelly Costello, another transgender person who has also filed a civil rights complaint.)

Manigault grew up as Michaela, a girl with irresistible Shirley Temple dimples who nonetheless loathed girly dresses. She has now evolved into Alex, a young man embracing the gender that he believes he was born with. It just never matched his body. Until now.

The Manigault family when Alex was a child

Born a girl, Alex used to be known as Michaela. Here, she was visiting the Franklin Delano Roosevelt Memorial in Washington, DC and petting the statue of the dog, Fala. (← ..:Photo missing from archived article)

Alex finally had the chest reconstruction surgery that doctors deemed medically necessary but Kaiser previously failed to cover, according to the determination and complaint.

Alex and his family cannot discuss any details of his settlement with Kaiser. But the Colorado State University art major agreed to share his story of struggle and transformation.

Alex recently traveled to San Francisco to have an experienced surgeon remove his female breast tissue and sculpt a male chest.

They felt like tumors on my chest or phantom limbs," Alex said of the female breasts, which he used to bind to try to flatten them.

He and his mom decided to bring the civil rights complaint and filed it in January of 2012, when Alex was just 17, because insurance companies provide all sorts of breast surgeries for other patients, including reconstruction for psychological well-being for cancer patients. It seemed fair to them that health insurance should also provide coverage that makes transgender people healthier.

"A lot of transgender people go through so much drama and so much heartache and waiting for years and sometimes decades to even talk about what it is they want and need," said Alex. "When you can finally admit what you want and feel safe, then the insurance company tells you ‘No,’ and puts another obstacle in front of you, that’s wrong.

"I’m just as surprised as you that I’m transgender," Alex says.

Alex credits his mom for being in his corner and pressing the case. Deborah Manigault is a civil rights law enforcement officer for the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development. So she knew how to file a civil rights complaint and felt it was clear that Alex deserved to win.

"These are not elective surgeries. They are medically necessary for their health, for their mental health and their medical well-being," she said. "There are many insurance companies who are claiming to be LGBT-friendly, but they are denying coverage based on transgender status."

Alex has not decided how to proceed with what transgender people call bottom surgery. Many transgender people evolving from female to male don’t bother seeking a surgically created penis since the options are poor. Results are much better for males becoming female because an experienced surgeon can essentially tuck the penis into the body and retain sensation.

Alex has been taking testosterone injections since his junior year of high school, so his voice is now deep and body hair has sprouted on his stomach and will fill his chest once it fully heals. Now a sophomore in college, he still thinks he looks somewhat feminine because of a long, graceful neck and fine cheekbones that any model would envy. But the testosterone he must inject every two weeks literally empowers him as it bulks up his muscles.

In contrast to the famous "It Gets Better" campaign, says it doesn’t get better overnight. Still, he is no longer hiding from friends and the world, afraid to hear his own voice. At last, he is embracing his manhood. He is becoming Alex.

"I didn’t want to be transgender"

Alex doesn’t remember a light bulb moment when he suddenly knew that he should have been a boy. Instead, growing up in Maryland and the conservative South, he remembers being a weird kid who could beat all the boys in running races, but never fit in.

"I went through a long process of feeling I was different in some way and not knowing what that difference was," Alex says.

Way back, at age 2, Michaela was a flower girl in a relative’s wedding. An outgoing toddler, Michaela pitched a fit over wearing the poufy floral dress for the ceremony. At the time, Deborah Manigault attributed the tantrum to a 2-year-old’s fickle independence. Now Deborah wonders if it was an early sign that Michaela didn’t feel right in her body.

As a fifth-grader, Michaela remembers once being teased by a group of classmates for not fitting in. She sought solace in a large cubby where she curled up and hid.

For years, hiding provided comfort.

But that was hard to do when you had to go out in public and figure out what to wear or whether to present yourself as a boy or a girl.

Tall and skinny, Michaela hated dresses and skirts. Pants fit like high-waters on her long legs. Her favorite item of clothing one year was a comfy pair of blue boys’ swim trunks that she remembers wearing day after day. Like Michaela, they were male with a touch of female. Hibiscus flowers crawled up the sides of the boy shorts.

By middle school, Michaela was wondering if she might be gay and attracted to girls.

A girl whose nickname was Apple passed through Michaela’ s school for a time. She was a tomboy too. They briefly flirted. But Apple left town and Michaela still couldn’t figure out why she was different.

On top of experiencing two genders, Alex is also biracial with an African American dad and an Anglo mom. Alex could pass for either. But when it comes to race and gender, Alex has often felt like an outsider.

Michaela was the only black kid in a rural white Georgia community. Then she had the reverse experience when her family moved closer to Atlanta and she had mostly black friends who sometimes ribbed her about her perfect "white person hair."

Michaela, left, often beat boys at running and was the only freshman to make the varsity soccer team freshman year before she moved from Georgia to Colorado and transitioned to a male named Alex.

Sports provided an outlet. Michaela still holds records from middle school for the mile, two mile and several relays. In high school in Georgia, Michaela was the only freshman to make the varsity soccer team. While Michaela fell in love with soccer, she couldn’t figure out her own identity. She hated having to dress up and wear high heels as required by the coach on soccer game days. She remembers wearing wedge shoes just long enough to run into her coach, then quickly switching to flat red Converses.

Early in high school, Michaela stumbled across Japanese Manga comic books that showed men attracted to men. Somehow that resonated. Either on a radio show or the Internet — Alex can’t remember which — she heard about transgender people and found an unwelcome answer.

"I didn’t want to be transgender. I was a really lazy child and it was a lot of work. It’s a lot of work for the rest of your life," Alex said. "It took a while to talk about it openly. It felt like this really secretive thing, like someone had hurt me and I hadn’t shared it. It felt like a really secret bad thing."

Mom guessed, dad reluctant to allow testosterone

Despite the pain and fear, Michaela knew she had to talk to her parents.

One day, early in 10th grade, she became very upset and was crying and told her mom she had to tell her something, but couldn’t say it. Michaela made her mom guess.

"I was scared to death," Deborah Manigault recalled. "I’m thinking bad stuff: drugs, alcohol or you failed every class this year. Eventually I got to gay, then I landed on ‘You think you’re a boy.’"

Relief washed over both mother and daughter. Michaela had been suffering from depression and sleep problems. Although Deborah said she had never had any clue before she uttered the words that Michaela might be transgender, her child’s challenges suddenly made sense.

"It was something to grasp onto. This is what’s been wrong. She had terrible bouts of depression and misery," Deborah said. "Golly. My only wish is that he had told us even sooner. When you have a miserable child, you’ll do simply anything to have that happy child back."

Deborah thinks the fact that she happens to be a civil rights officer who could advocate legally for her only child was a great coincidence.

"I filed our complaint out of desperation and was also thinking, ‘What the heck. Let’s give it a go.’ It felt right.

"Not only on a practical level, but also on a deep spiritual level, perhaps babies do pick their parents. I’m grateful that this particular child was born to us. There are a lot of children who don’t turn out exactly the way parents would have assumed they’d turn out. A lot of parents do reject children. To me, discarding a child is the deepest form of evil.

"I am very, very grateful for Alex and grateful he was born to us and not to someone who was bigoted and intolerant."

Deborah Manigault

Alex's mom, Deborah Manigualt, has fought for her son to get equal health care.

When Deborah looks back at Michaela’s art and photos of her, it all makes sense. Yes, she always had been boyish. And she had a ‘take no prisoners’ attitude. Deborah had even borrowed the famous Clint Eastwood movie line as a caption for one of Michaela’s childhood photos: "Go ahead. Make my day."

Once Michaela opened up, Deborah got busy trying to help her daughter adapt to becoming a son. She wanted Michaela to tell her dad right away. But Alex remembers locking the door of his room and refusing to come out.

Eventually the two talked. Slowly since then, Alex’s dad has come to terms with his daughter’s need for reinvention.

"It was like the death of a child. They know I’m going to be different. They have to bury the memory of that girl that they raised in order to have a new child come out," Alex says.

"That was a really hard process for my dad."

A logical computer expert and graduate of Georgia Tech, Manuel "Mani" Manigault wasn’t on board with a physical transformation at first, Alex says.

He objected to allowing his daughter to take testosterone.

"His personality almost wanted to prevent it from happening," Alex says. "He’s more conservative on lifestyle stuff. He didn’t want me to get my lip piercings or to make my hair weird colors either."

But for Alex, proceeding with the physical transformation was his only choice.

Alex with his dad, Mani Manigault.

At first, Alex says it was tougher for his dad to accept that his daughter was truly a son. Ultimately, Alex’s dad supported his decision to start taking testosterone in high school and move forward with his transition to a male.

"Once my dad relented on the testosterone, he loosened his fist on the whole thing: ‘It looks like we’re doing the right thing.’ He saw how much less angry I was. I had better grades."
Alex testosterone prescription photo

Silent at high school: ‘I didn’t want to hear my own voice’

Alex said parents should trust their kids if they say they’re gay or transgender because the child or teen has already grappled with every possible doubt.

Despite invaluable support from his parents, Alex told no one else.

"I was very quiet. I didn’t talk to anyone. I was both depressed and scared to death to speak. My voice was very effeminate. I didn’t want to hear my own voice. I didn’t want to plant any seeds of doubt."

That same year, Alex’s mom applied for a job in Colorado and transferred to HUD offices in Denver. The family then moved to Broomfield.

At first, Alex registered at Broomfield High School as a girl named Miki Manigault.

But he tried to wear men’s clothes so people would figure out he was really a boy.

"I was hoping I could simply imply something without having to explain it," Alex said. "It was nerve-wracking. I felt like at any moment I could be caught in a lie. Do you really think you can bend the rules this way?"

Then in junior year, he decided to register as male and that turned out to be easy. The school district changed his name and gender in the system. He became Alexander and they simply checked the male box instead of female. Done.

Michaela running

School officials asked Alex to use a unisex bathroom for adults near the office; he found that a relief since he didn’t want any guys taunting him by the urinals in the boys’ bathroom.

By November of that year, having just turned 16, Alex started injecting himself with small doses of testosterone. But his gender was still ambiguous and being a transgender kid in a new school wasn’t easy. Alex still told no one. He heard anonymous voices whispering "dyke" and "fag" in the hallways. Teachers would sometimes stumble over his gender.

"I was asked every day if I was a boy or a girl."

Therapy behind the scenes was supposed to lift his spirits, to help with self-acceptance. But his therapist gave him bad news: "Being a gay transgender male was going to be one of the hardest things to do."

Alex distinguishes between gender identity and sexual attraction. He knows that he is male. That is his identity. He is young and while he suspects he is a male attracted to men, he’s not yet certain. Hormones could change his attractions. If he is a gay transgender man, he could be in for romantic challenges.

"There’s a possibility that I’m screwed and I’ll be alone forever," he said. "Men in the gay community like penises."

Speaking again: ‘I’m transgender’
Alex smiling

While the bleak outlook sometimes overwhelms Alex, he has begun to open up.

At Broomfield High, he eventually summoned the courage to attend the Gay Student Alliance and announce that he was transgender. School officials asked him to serve as a mentor to a freshman transgender student. Having adapted at a younger age, Alex said that student didn’t need his help.

College has been remarkably liberating. During freshmen orientation last year in a dorm full of art students, Alex simply announced his status.

Alex Manigault must inject himself with testosterone every two weeks. He will have to do this for the rest of his life. At first, it gave him headaches. Now it is building muscle and gives him male body hair that he doesn't particularly like.

He hoped he could make a big announcement and be done, "like throwing out one big handful of confetti and hopefully we’d never talk about it again."

Of course that didn’t happen and people do want to talk about it.

"Everyone overcompensated. They were so ready to be accepting that it was overwhelming,’’ he said.

Still it’s great to have friends like Alex’s two male housemates, who don’t see it as any big deal.

"I often go round and round in my head about this. The only time someone’s sexuality influences you is if you are having sex with them. It doesn’t impact me," said Marcus Stevenson, 19, who grew up in a very religious family in a rural part of southern Colorado.

Marcus is perfectly happy having a transgender friend and housemate. The fact that his conservative family or other people might judge Alex makes him angry. But he’s philosophical about the tough times Alex experiences: "There is no light without the dark," he says.

Among peers, Marcus says there’s a "rat race of individuality," so many young people who are desperate to be hip think Alex is very, very hip.

Alex doesn’t always feel ultra-hip or extremely happy.

The surgery wasn’t a quick fix for the emotional problems that being transgender either exacerbated or created. Still he feels like his brain and body are beginning to match each other.

"It’s not like I want to do cartwheels and back flips now that I don’t have breasts," he said. "This is normal. Before when I wore a binder, it was always hot and it made cleavage and now I can just do what normal people do, just wear a T-shirt or whatever I want."

Alex still thinks he has "Shirley Temple dimples" but welcomes the chance to wear any top he wants without worrying about female breasts that felt like "tumors or phantom limbs."

Alex dresses most of the time in the male clothes that he has long preferred. But there’s still a touch of hibiscus in his wardrobe. He sometimes picks lacy see-through tops that he can now wear without a camisole. And he enjoys wearing leggings beneath shorts or around the house.

While Alex is getting more comfortable in his body, he doesn’t have any desire to become an activist. He loves staying busy with his art and his job at the CSU library.

Case sends powerful signal

LGBT advocates, however, see his case as critical. At the Colorado Civil Rights Division, all cases remain confidential until they go to a hearing. So officials there cannot say if there have been other cases like Alex’s.

"It’s the first one I know of related to health insurance," said Ashley Wheeland, health policy director and a staff attorney for One Colorado, the group that advocates for LGBT people here.

"It sends a powerful signal that anti-discrimination protections do protect transgender individuals and that systems — including health systems — need to look within their (organizations) for discrimination and change that."

Being transgender in Colorado puts you in a protected class on civil rights matters, Wheeland said.

"We think it’s really important. It brings the issues that transgender people face daily to the forefront. These are changes that we need so people don’t live in fear and can stand up for their rights," she said "It’s life-changing for many people. It was under the radar."

Still, neither Wheeland nor Alex expects a burst of new cases. Wheeland estimates that transgender people make up just one-half of 1 percent of all Coloradans.

And Alex laughs at the idea that health insurance companies are suddenly going to be flooded with transgender patients.

"It’s not like someone is going to turn transgender just so they can get health care," he said.

For now, Alex’s wish is that people would stop fighting and start focusing on helping unconventional people like him be healthy.

Alex Manigault's tattoo was inspired by a poem about a bird trapped in a room and escaping. It shows a fist pushing through a stained glass window and now seems to represent Alex's male self emerging.
Alex Manigault's tattoo

He’s experienced some hatred on Facebook from conservative relatives who disapprove of him and "are praying for him."

"There’s no reason for me to be in your prayers. I’m fine," said Alex. "Overall it’s been really easy for me. I never got beat up because I am transgender. I never had my parents disown me. It’s not going to be a skip through the roses. But anyone growing up today is going to deal with a lot of depressing issues."

He thinks of a Richard Wilbur poem called "The Writer" that inspired a tattoo on his arm. The tattoo shows a fist bursting through a stained glass window. Alex didn’t intend to reference what it feels like to have his male self break free, but now it seems to do just that.

Instead Alex liked the idea of the iridescent bird stuck in a room, trying to find a way to escape.

First the bird can’t find the opening that the poet has created in the shiny glass. It "batters against the brilliance" and drops, bloodied and defeated.

Then, like Alex, the bird gathers its strength and tries again.

Wrote Wilbur: "How our spirits rose when, suddenly sure, it lifted off from a chair-back, beating a smooth course for the right window and clear(ed) the sill of the world."

Alex shirtless
Alex shirtless

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Family "Support System"

Juan A. Manigault's Facebook profile

The plain text of the post. Juan A. Manigault shared this to his Facebook on January 22, 2023 & Miki's last update was Jan 11, 2023

Juan shared the following to his Facebook on Feb 2, 2023 & commented: "This is deplorable!!! Male and Female God created Adam and Eve."

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Update: "posthumous(?)" social media activity

I did notify the Manigaults about the existence of this website and periodically checked Miki's social media page. There were a few days where Miki's social media profile was inaccessible to me and then the profile was again public, but the profile picture was removed. I took some screencaptures and included them here without making much comment or a separate section at first. I assumed it was Deborah posting after taking control of the account. It could be Manuel with control of the account, too. His career is computer technology related so it would be "up his alley", so to speak. The postings continued so I created this new section in mid-June.

A skeptic could argue that I have no way of knowing if it's Miki posting or not. The circumstantial evidence indicates that it's not Miki and I know of other factors in the family's recent activity (e.g., Deborah & Mani apparently have separated and Mani acquired a townhouse) that bolsters my hypothesis. Admittedly, all I can see of Miki's social media is what is posted publicly but I evaluate the activity in relation to how an average young person would post to where the whole point is to network with new people so most posts would be public. Someone may want to share a posting of Miki's and any young person knows that the post would have to be public (as opposed to only be limited to "friends" or "friends of friends") in order for somebody to be able to share the post to their profile timeline for the general public to be able to view without the possibility of the "content unavailable" type posts.

The other point I would like to include here is that my old counselor who was aware of Miki's case years ago made it a point to mention that people will be deceptive to hide their guilt. I already understood (and he might've been aware of this) that there's "phenomenon" that many attest to be unexplained, or be a result of events that defy scientific explanation that's grounded in reality (like UFO abduction), that is actually result of horrendous crime. The majority of people know that now, I'd think, and aren't fooled so easily.

One of the most prominent indicators of deception in the recent activity of Miki's social media profile is that an older photograph was used for the profile picture. It's totally & completely obvious that the picture is old because Miki obviously got new glasses since the photograph was taken. People who wear prescription glasses wouldn't revert to an older set unless it was only temporary due to breakage, or something. People don't make a habit of using photographs that were taken two years prior to replace one that was taken a few months back.

This website exists as a civil habeas corpus where it's being requested that the Manigault family provide proof of life of Miki and I will continue monitoring the situation & provide updates as I see fit.

The plain text of the updated profile information in late May 2023.

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15 sec video posted on June 28, 2023

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48 sec video posted on July 7, 2023

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1:19 min video posted on July 19, 2023

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Results of Presentation & My Analysis

Note: This section will be updated. I have other pertinent information to include regarding trauma victims and the social dynamics & issues that they encounter. Please check back in early July 2024.

A few months have passed since my last update on this page. There's been no activity on Miki's Facebook since January (2024). I filed a second complaint with HUD regarding the apartment that I was in (but I've since moved). The managers of that apartment building wouldn't keep the online payment portal accurate to enable me to use it. (I'm a disabled person by federal law.) I tried everything I could including writing their main office. As was suggested by one of the HUD people, I even obtained a letter from a physician to request reasonable accommodation that stated that I needed to have equal access to technical amenities (i.e., the online payment portal), and I submitted the letter to the managers. They ignored it. They wouldn't remove their signs that threatened hundred dollar fines for trash bags left in trash chute room when the chute was full. (They can demand reimbursement for cleanup cost they incur but of course it would need to be proportionate and not be a direct result of management failing to properly maintain the trash service.) I got the manager to approve my thirty days notice and my reasons listed on it included the statement that the management is violating the lease by threatening the fine. I submitted the signed form to the state. Not one gov't agency employee that I've contacted considers it a problem that the managers violate the lease and feel comfortable with freely admitting it. A HUD employee responded to the complaint with a letter that stated that they were contacting Federal Protective Service to investigate me because of this website. A copy of the letter is below.

I spoke with a young woman with the state who insisted that what happened to Miki has absolutely nothing to do with Deborah Manigault's impartiality and ability to do her work professionally. When I brought all of this up to a woman friend of mine she got indignant and said that I must not understand that Miki is most likely doing just fine. I avoided providing any sort of additional commentary here about Miki and her fate but realized that what she provided us by way of her contribution to social science is too important to overlook.

For a number of years now I've considered myself an advocate for marginalized & vulnerable people, psychologically trauma'd people who've experienced various physical abuse, victims of child abuse, etc., and I made it a point to participate in the mental/behavioral health community and learn from others (peers) as well as the educated professionals who are active in the psychiatry-critical circuit. There are those who refer to themselves as anti-psychiatry but I'm pragmatic and I know there is a distinction between psychology and psychiatry. That difference is an area of misinterpretation (confusion) among people in general. To be brief here, I would state that a reasonable difference is that psychiatry is for people that experience psychological aberration which the person cannot control that poses a physical danger for themselves and/or others. The physical danger part would be contestable since there would be degrees from almost non-existent to extreme, i.e., a depressed person who otherwise poses no threat to themselves or others (the person doesn't want to do anything at all) would still create a physical danger since lack of personal hygiene will create unsafe personal environmental conditions. Eventually other people would need to get involved and be physically subjected to the person's unsanitary domestic environment, etc. Of course it all becomes more complex but what is ignored, by culture's standards, is the person's circumstances in their social (& family) dynamic. Maybe my example depressed person is bombarded with ridicule and contempt by siblings, as an adult, and by extension it's understood that any younger generation in the family is to consider the depressed person as just weak (or whatever), any legitimate real-life reasons for the person's distress, like trauma, grief, etc. is deliberately dismissed. Validation of the person's experience would mean that family members are cruel people and that can't be accepted as true story type thing.

Since I do not have a complete formal education (college degree) in the associated subjects I limited my involvement by not venturing into some aspects of sociology, mainly the human sexuality controversy. I didn't want to be presumptuous by introducing some idea or example that could be gleaned from Miki's suffering. It's really quite obvious that she suffered. It's also obvious that (dare I say) the original goal never materialized for her. I assume that the doctors involved had a future timeline created for Miki to undergo whatever treatments that were (thought to be) necessary for her to complete her transformation. It appears as though she went through initial procedures and there might've been a "cross that bridge when we come to it" attitude as far as financing future medical work that wasn't realistic, or she decided that she didn't want to continue. Of course those two possibilities should have been foreseen by the physicians, and as for the latter it is critical that it is acknowledged that she was under the age of consent but was effectively entered into a legal contract that proved to be a detriment to her physical health.

I realized that what Miki offers us is a way to express and clarify some basic & ancient philosophy and apply the ideas to modern society.

First I'd like to establish my qualifications for continuing with this topic in regards to Miki's circumstances. My lack of college degree is an asset, I'd think, since I'm not merely going to regurgitate some intellectual's textbook description or definition, etc. I have to start from scratch and present an intelligible and acceptable thesis. Everyone inevitably knows some sociology, whether it be accurate or based on some skewed perception, bias, etc. As a person ages they inevitably gain more understanding of material circumstances that people face, their socioeconomic status and so on. People who become interested in true crime events and forensic science as an avocation are more aware of what all that entails, but of course there exists misinterpretation and misperception of people's behavior or reasons for actions undertaken. When there are "crimes" committed by minors there can be vehement reactions and comments from people in the general public that are outrageously calloused and mean. Modern medical science has established that a human's brain isn't fully matured until the age of twenty-five so adolescents can be capable of extreme violence when under duress. All too often it is only the result of their violence that is considered and events leading up to the action is ignored or dismissed. There is a projection (fundamental attribution error) of mature, adult knowledge and reasoning ability onto the minors that is not realistic. Charging and trying minors as adults for murder is an example of the cultural posit. I am convinced that the majority of people don't agree with the practice but are browbeaten and shamed into silence.

Now is a good place to introduce the rudimentary philosophy of Theory of Forms where (basically) there exists a perfect form of whatever idea, entity, etc. and then there is what we have in reality is an imitation of the associated perfect form. It is generalized assessment of a subject that is most often evoked by (relatively) uneducated people where the imitation (reality) form is what is available for people and most people understand that is all they can expect, so work with it as it exists - type thing. There was a time when women who were victims of domestic violence wouldn't be given any consideration for mitigating circumstances (self-defence argument) if they retaliated against their abuser and killed them. The perfect form is the idea that the woman had opportunity to escape an abusive relationship, and the woman's reality was that she was socioeconomically imprisoned. There were a few instances of filicide/suicide committed by mothers who's husbands were devoutly religious and effectively isolated (and scapegoated) their wife. It becomes clear that established laws regarding homicide are not always effective. No, we shouldn't do away with the laws but we can accept the need for government human (social) services and the departments would need to be taxpayer financed. That point is a main topic of contention, in various forms, among citizens in many regions (states & countries) internationally. The perfect form example is the argument that the majority of people don't need a social safety net, gov't welfare assistance, and other associated services so it isn't really fair that their taxes go to fund other people's basic needs. Of course my simple reply to that argument is that there's taxpayer funded deep space exploration that isn't going to be of any substantial benefit to anyone living today, or the future, deep space travel is a futile pursuit. Colonizing another planet in our solar system is implausible. Much of the research is privately funded anymore, is the conservative argument, and it puts people to work, etc., etc., but my counter-point is that those "private funds" are of corporate origin and businesses are known to exploit human beings so the funding is off of a poor person's back.

(There are also child tax credits and free public education for children so it's implied that people can't help to have children, or well, they have to, or all of that is really just part of setting up in an intimate relationship that garners cultural sympathy.)

In this I realized that the best reasoning behind the argument that the social services is worthy of taxpayer funding is that there's gov't funded promotion of college education, which is fine, but the reasoning of higher education is to earn more money and less or no physical (manual or skilled) labor, less physical risk, cleaner work environments, etc. The reality is that there are people still doing the more physical work, and often are paid less or even exploited, but their circumstances were not entirely of their own making. The ideology that in this country anyone can become anything & be rich is based on anecdotal evidence and exaggeration. There even exists what I think of as flash-in-the-pan "success" stories where the person's full history (crooked dealings and downfall) is ignored. If the idea then becomes that it's obvious that minority, people of color deserve equity programs and access to gov't social services (welfare) because of systematic oppression and reduced opportunity, but white people shouldn't qualify, then that is Theory of Forms (generalization) since there were white ethnic groups (i.e., Irish Catholics) that were also exploited. There is a myth that white people will always give other white people preferential treatment (over people of color) but that isn't true. (... And this bit didn't come from me, mind you, but from a short Black man that had a masters degree in social work & decades of experience in the field.) Racist white people will give other racist white people preferential treatment, but if they know/think that the other white person isn't like they are then they might even be tempted to torment (bully) them with the purpose of degrading them. The man I mentioned with the MSW understood that many of his white clients were in the category (demographic) of non-racist who were victimized, sometimes extremely so, for variety of reasons. (In the course of my therapy with a different counselor I talked about a job that I felt forced to quit because I was expected to scapegoat an indigenous man for ten thousand dollars worth of damage caused by another white employee to a new construction condo. There were other instances, events in my life too, where there were violent assaults committed against me because I was alone.)

I once heard a man who was in the skilled labor, construction business (owned a roofing company) say that he read an article that was about how there were people who'd migrate to the United States (in our contemporary era) and become millionaires in a relatively short time and he was impressed by their work ethic (basically) and determination. I pointed out to him that there are always the people, from every race or ethnicity, that will have no problem with taking advantage of other people in the pursuit of wealth. That could be part of an inner-group dynamic. People often have ulterior motives and if they have some financial means to assist others then they might also have implied conditions. People who have been abused, traumatized, may have such immense problems with people's lack of awareness and compassion that they can't get along with "regular" people who begin sympathizing with (defending) some person or entity that has historically harmed people in their goal to make a lot of money. I might've covered the point here that people will instinctively defend (or sympathize with) a person or entity that has the most power/wealth, initially, but may change that if they're self-aware and humble. It's been established that young people born into disadvantaged circumstances are often targeted for abuse from peers if they exhibit motivation to escape generational impoverishment. That really doesn't make sense for their overall demographic since there could be improvement for those peers' lives too, but it's jealousy, etc. and as young people they wouldn't have the maturity to understand that aspect. There's instant gratification to be had by bullying someone.

So there exists inner-group oppression, is what I've pointed out. It should be expected that people in an oppressed or exploited demographic (even regular working-class adults since there are people born into generational wealth that will never do any work for pay, somebody has to pick up the slack) ... but it is not uncommon for children of working class people to endure some abuse, to whatever degree, by parents, other family, friends, etc. so there can be lack of compassion for a person who shares that they were, let's say, spanked as a child. Many people will insist that they deserved every spanking that they received. (The Holy Bible even condones it, from what they say, except there's the point that shepards would carry a prodding type of stick/pole to help guide disorientated animals in their flock so maybe that's what the verse means.) I would often hear the old standby adecdote about a boy being told to go get a switch off the tree, like that was the worst thing imaginable, they'd take it back to their pops and he'd test it by hitting the table edge and it'd break. The boy would be sent out to get another and another test would fail. By the end of the third trip it'd be time to go fishing and their pops knew the best spots...

Anyway, I digress...

So people will (initially, at least) side with or defend a person or entity in a position of power. That concept is referred to as the "Just World" ideology and it becomes apparent in familial conflicts when there is a member who has suffered some kind of trauma but is met with disbelief or denial from family member(s) when reporting the event to them. There is the idea (either explicitly expressed or merely implied) of "what did you do (to deserve that)?", e.g., the child was hit by their teacher so the teacher must've had good reason (for example here) but then the family member might refuse to consider it in any other way. Maybe out of their own shame or embarrassment the family member will not be satisfied until the child (victim) validates that position and allows themselves scapegoated. What is important here is that in cases of sexual assault that a person may have been a victim of (as an adult, for this example), the family member expresses that disbelief and denial but then would realize the nature of the trauma and feel ashamed of their reaction and are then overwhelmed by conflicting, confusing emotions and a quarrel will ensue that creates an unresolved rift. If the victimized person depends on the family member then they may have no other choice but to forgive the denial and then that could even be taken as "evidence" that the report wasn't entirely factual. The victim is scapegoated. A person could've endured many acts of physical abuse (crimes) against them and instead of receiving family members' sympathy, they are despised and ignored. If the person grows into adulthood and never establishes their own family, and/or lifelong successful career, etc. then the family blames them and will talk about them like they're the most ungrateful people ever to walk the earth. It's just easier (more expedient), that way. Within families there will usually be others with various degrees of sympathy (emotional support) for the opposing sides of the conflict, but some families are so isolated that there would exist nothing but disdain for the victim family member. For a person to remain in such an environment would mean certain early death for them and nothing but misery until then. We use taxpayer money to fund gov't animal control departments that would capture a stray dog and take it to a pound, provide veterinary services, and put the dog up for adoption. A person that has been victimized by other people can receive help by social/human services (kind of entities or private organizations) but only if they can accept being considered as inferior to other citizens.

I'd like to associate another case here, and that is what happened to Jamel Myles. In both cases the person with the identity crisis was a child and the adults involved are completely oblivious to their responsibility. In both cases it's society that's to blame, from what popular consensus says. Anyone who speaks out about either case is risking a fundamental attribution error regarding their interest or assessment. If a child is abused who has no father, then the mother is at fault for any abuse the child may endure at home if she is the only one there with him. Jamel's mother was not considered abusive but her son didn't put nail polish on himself. He probably insisted(?) but there was a physical action done to him that later caused him distress. As a child, he lacked the foresight and experience to understand that he would be ridiculed. Blaming the other students for not immediately accepting him was not realistic. Other children were scapegoated for his death. Parents will immediately sympathize with other parents and they'll all see children as their adversary. If a childless adult attempts to intervene and explain to the parents that they're in error, then parents in general will all turn on the lone voice and scapegoat the non-parent adult.

What becomes obvious with Miki's case is that a human female's sexuality is more complex than a male's and, whether it's accepted by women or not, human female breasts are both functional and sensual as part of her sexuality. I am sure that I am not the first person to ever point out that blatantly evident fact. If a woman's breast(s) are damaged in some way then it affects the woman emotionally. In any kind of physical injury or permanent damage there is the context of how it was incurred when considering how the woman will process her reality, whether or not she can accept it and find peace. It's obvious that Miki wouldn't be able to since they all blame her. The video linked to above of Miki addressing her maternal grandfather speaks volumes since at her age the man in her life that she had a problem with was her grandpa, she was that isolated.

The other point I'd like to make here (and I probably should expand on this aspect) is that there exists gender jealousy, men are jealous of women's sexuality and vice versa. If you think about that then it's obvious that the jealousy is inherent and biologically necessary for our species to survive. A mature adult, whether fully conscious of it or not, is able to curb their jealousy and be productive, contributing members of society. A mature adult's whole life is not all about their sexuality, but in the cases of transgender experimentaion the person's whole existance is centered around their sexuality, or more accurately, their lack of it, so there exists a preoccupation for them regarding a personal aspect of their lives that they are unable to resolve. They're really incapable of doing anything other than something directly related to their preoccupation, like "advocating" for their "demographic" which really only exists in theory. Equality or not, their mortality is exceptionally high. They can only accept themselves if others accept them, but that is not realistic. The vast majority of transgender people will not die of old age. It becomes blatantly obvious that if a child begins to express the desire for some physical alteration to their body to accommodate their sexuality goals then they need to be relocated to another environment (taken from their parents) even if that means that they'd be institutionalized ... of course the Theory of Forms tells us that is the worst thing ever, but I'd like to point out that with that cultural change there should be coinciding change in the mental health system. I don't mean "throwing money at the problem" but instead working out a way to take advantage of contemporary technology (while acknowledging that the use of technology is dehumanizing in its way) ... but we could utilize the advances in artificial intelligence to help distressed people occupy their time in a constructive fashion for their own peace of mind. Psychological help should concentrate on a person's acceptance of themselves and not be geared toward merely making them a productive citizen. It's a projection onto a person (again, Theory of Forms) that they will find peace and accept themselves if they concentrate on producing (something), making that their goal in life, while their perspective of themselves and their future enjoyment of life is nothing but hopelessness.

Text of the letter from HUD (above)

The U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUUD) administratively enforces the Fair Housing Act (the Act), 42 U.S.C. §3601, et seq., as amended. The Act prohibits discrimination in the sale, rental, and financing of dwellings, and in other housing- related transactions, because of race, color, religion, sex (including gender identity and sexual orientation), familial status, national origin, and disability. On February 5, 2024, our office received the above referenced inquiry you submitted online alleging housing discrimination.

It has come to my immediate attention that you may have engaged in cyberstalking activities related to a member of our staff. While the matter has been referred to Federal Protective Service for investigation, the safety of our employees is of the utmost importance to HUD and our office will take every reasonable precaution in these situations. Your inquiry has been closed and our office is terminating contact with you as of the date of this letter. This decision is final, and HUD will no longer respond to your correspondence or telephone calls about this matter.

You may consult with a private attorney to ascertain any other right of action you may have under federal, state or local laws. Notwithstanding this termination of contact, you have the right to pursue a civil action in an appropriate U.S. district court or state court no later than two (2) years after the occurrence or the termination of an alleged discriminatory housing practice.

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About the word "inclusive" and accessibility

I am editing this into here (on July 1, 2024) for reasons of convenience. It's apparently going to be an issue, and is somewhat relatable. There was recent news article about the Mattel game company making changes to the graphics of their games so as to be more accessible for colorblind people. The journalist used the word "inclusive" and someone commented that the word was deliberately used in a misleading sense so as to get attention. I tried pointing out that it was being used correctly and also that the word was used in technical world in association with accessibilty before it was used in gender related controversy. Of course I was rebuffed.

The MSW that I've mentioned elsewhere in this page brought up to me the use of the word "transference" in the field of psychology/psychiatry and how it is only associated with the idea of a client believing that a therapist or doctor has romantic feelings for them. My counselor made it clear that annoyed him since the word is actually synonymous with the word "projection" ... that word can be a problem for me to use verbally if in a conversation with a woman since I (or maybe anyone) would tend to hand gesture the projection which could be misinterpreted as aggressive or whatever.

The point is that this same type of thing has happened throughout the history of English spoken language and the absolute reality is that people will use the controversy and the relation to human sexuality as a way to suppress other people's freedom of speech. People diagnosed with "mental illness" can experience immense difficulty talking about any abuse they suffered in their lives and so then the reality gets to be about effectively & systematically silencing victims of child abuse. It's really obvious that many women want every conversation to be about (their) sexuality and so as to goad men on to resort to discuss the topic and then well, "That is all men think or talk about" and of course the only men that women want to talk about sex is well endowed men so as far as women are concerned, the only men that should be allowed free speech is the men that women desire to have sex with.

I will include the screen captures and text here for reference. I may edit this later but needed to get this published.

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About Webpage & Author

This webpage's creation was result of combined effort of professional & freelance advocates from local metro human & social services fields, and mental health (integrative medicine) community.

The original motivation for researching Miki is immaterial in this context and the priority needs to be to investigate the Manigault family because it is very clear that Miki is no longer living. The age of 28 years old is a significant milestone in a person's adulthood. It is obvious that Miki was abandoned by the family & that should have been a foreseeable outcome. Miki mentioned "destined to be alone" but as it was pointed out to me once (by a man with a master's in social work) that nobody is ever really alone. If a person has wealth then it's possible to have comfortable solitude; but for those in the lower caste (or "low-income") there's actually only isolation and consequently, exclusion (outcast).

I tried a search for "munchausen by proxy transgender child" and I wasn't the first to make the association. In the third result down (I didn't click on it but it was a "" link) ... but in the brief description that shows up there's a statement of "...that this disorder is no longer even called Munchausen by proxy" and that speaks volumes in itself since there's argument of semantics that's trite considering the subject. In reality it is human sacrifice that's done with modern medicine.

I will continue to do further research & work on the webpage contents. Please check back for updates.

My other relatable website regarding irresponsible (to the point of physically abusive & criminal) apt managers is available here:

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